In elementary or grammar school, most of us got a few treats during the day. For example, in kindergarten we may have been given milk and cookies or nap time during the afternoon. And in later grades, we may have been given recess, a time to play and relax, once or twice a day. Unfortunately, as we become adults, we often fall out of the habit of giving ourselves a nice treat each day. This is really too bad, since giving ourselves a small luxury each day can really help reduce stress levels and can help make us feel more focused and happier.
I have a friend who’s going through an extremely difficult time. In addition to facing an unpleasant divorce, she is also filling out numerous USCIS green card renewal immigration forms, and trying to apply for citizenship as well. Despite a hectic schedule, with night school as well as a full-time job, she still manages to give herself a quick treat every day. Frequently she has told me how important just 15 minutes a day of relaxation are for her. She often lights scented candles, she’s told me, relaxes in a bathtub, or just curls up with a good book. Sometimes she does nothing more than sit around with music and a scented candle. However, those 15 minutes a day recharge and refresh her, leaving her ready to take on even more the next day.
I’ve decided to try it, to. Now, once a day I light a nicely scented candle, and just relax. I don’t do anything in particular, and that’s the point. I putter about, listen to soothing music, read a book, knit, take a bath, or just sit around and do absolutely nothing. The power of doing absolutely nothing has been truly phenomenal in my life. Now, I’m in a better mood, more relaxed, and not so worried about crossing everything off on my to-do list. At the same time, I seem to be more productive, maybe because I have that little bit of rest to recharge so that I’m ready to really go for it.
Lately, inspired by my friend’s hectic lifestyle, I’ve been doing what she has been doing and experimenting with aromatherapy scented candles. Lighting citrus candles when I want to wake up and be energized or soothing lavender candles when I want to relax really seems to make the difference. I can even burn one while I do work at home in order to remind myself to not be overly hectic. It really works, and now I recommend a 15 minute break to everyone I meet. Why should only kids have the pleasure of a treat or recess?

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